There are certain personality types, human qualities and styles of living life which scare me, and have me feel threatened. The following discussion highlights some of the characteristics I find most frightening.
People who are ambitious scare me. Ambitious people “make things happen”, “will not let anything stand in their way”, and feel the end justifies the means. Ambitious people are never satisfied and never feel that they have accomplished enough, for the moment they feel they have fully accomplished their goal, they would no longer be ambitious.
The discontented rule the world, and a great many of the discontented are ambitious. A contented or satisfied person has no need or desire to control, own and dominate their fellow men. The ambitious on the other hand have no end to that which they can own and control, millions, billions and even trillions are not enough.
Nothing I have is ever truly safe from the ambitious. There is no object I possess or freedom I enjoy which the ambitious cannot take away. My money, my job, my house and my social standing are all vulnerable to the whims of the ambitious.
The quality of the air I breathe, the water I drink, the food I eat, and the landscape I see are all able to be altered and poisoned by the ambitious. Even my future access to food, water, clean air, and honest information is able to be robbed from me by those with ambition. My access to quality health care and the quality of life available to my children and grand children are fully in the hands of those who always feel the need to accumulate and own more and more.
Our society has been sold on the myth of ambition. We are told that without ambition there would be no progress and all advancement in the quality of life and standard of living are the direct result of ambition. Without ambition we would be little better than animals and our lives would never had advanced past the existence of the caveman.
We are often led to believe that there is no difference between ambition and qualities such as drive and determination. Yet, the world of inventors, creators, geniuses, engineers, discoverers, technicians and theoreticians which have given birth to the vast majority of changes and improvements in science, technology, agriculture and medicine which have positively impacted our quality of life and standard of living have not been particularly ambitious.
While some ambitious people have invented or popularized important and essential elements improving our quality of life through improvements in communication, transportation and agriculture, etc. , the vast majority of contributions have come from compassionate and relatively unambitious individuals. Those who use invention as a means to acquire wealth and power, seldom continue to invent and instead become devoted to forming a monopoly to maximize their power and do their best to inhibit future growth and change which would reduce their power and control.
The majority of our most gifted inventors and geniuses prefer to go from one contribution to the next and have little interest on capitalizing on their accomplishments. The history of invention is filled with people who were never recognized or known for their ground breaking contributions and more often than not died poor or even destitute. Oftentimes the one recognized or known as the inventor stole or ran the true inventor out of business.
The vast majority of major and minor contributors to the advancement of human life were not motivated by or sought wealth and fame. Most of the advancements in our quality of life and standard of living have been done by people like Jonas Salk who chose not to capitalize on his discoveries and instead of patenting his vaccines preferred the option of improving the lives of others in a cost effective manner. Don’t let the ambitious try to convince you otherwise, people can and will be great without a need to control, own or exploit their fellow man.
The ambitious feel they deserve wealth and control, and expect and demand the respect and admiration of others. The dedicated and driven inventor on the other hand feels it an opportunity and privilege to have their talents and discoveries be utilized in a way to benefit their fellow man and have no need for wealth and fame.
Another group of people which make afraid and wary are the desperate. While the ambitious are often hailed and respected it is the rare person who doesn’t immediately fear and protect themselves from the desperate. It is not so important that a person actually be in a dire situation it is only necessary for them to feel desperate for them to be dangerous and harmful to others.
The ambitious and the desperate share a few similar characteristics. The ambitious and the desperate often exist with a sense of urgency which places their concerns, feelings and desires above all others. Both will righteously defend their selfish actions and minimize if not glorify the harm they do to others. Their sense of discontentment dominates all their feelings and actions, and pervades the way they view their world.
Much of my adult life has been spent helping those in desperate situations. I seldom blame or feel that the people I attempt to assist deserve what is happening to them. Yet, even while I care and have compassion for many of the desperate around the globe I realize it would be fool hardy to not realize the danger they pose to me and my existence.
Another group of people I fear are those that feel they have it all figured out. These people feel that absolute truth exists and that they are the fortunate custodians of it. It matters little to me of the source of this monopoly on Truth, it origin could be science, religion, mysticism or spiritualism. What only matters is that for them their is only one Truth for them and for all others.
Since they know the Truth, the only option available to you is to agree with their perspective and conclusions. Any “resistance” to their viewpoint is a sign of stupidity, evil, lostness or danger. The custodians of Truth believe the rights and freedoms of the non-believers are not to be respected, and often times punishment of the non-believers is thought of as being the truly noble and right thing to do.
In the world of belief and Truth, their is no room for discussion, tolerance or divergent viewpoints for either one knows and accepts or one is a problem and a heathen. As I mentioned earlier it matters little if the source of this inflexible righteousness be science, philosophy, psychology or religion, what is scary is the intolerance shown to all those who question or do not openly agree.
These people scare me not only because they can label me as evil and forbid me to live differently then them, but also because their righteousness and certainty often bar them from seeing the world as it really is and thereby preventing solutions to problems which are causing so much unnecessary suffering in the world.
This does not mean I claim any insight into any competing ultimate truth, but only to recognize that sometimes immediate problems have real solutions that can be shown to work in the here and now. Truth mongers often freeze life into some ideal state which prevents them from seeing the uniqueness of a situation or how some action or intervention may be beneficial now, but not be suitable in a different time or situation.
The last group of people I’ll address today which frighten me are the deceivers such as con men, propagandists and spin doctors. Now, I am comfortable with the fact that most people have difficulty getting through the day without engaging in some form of lie or exaggeration, yet it is the professional deceiver that scares me. Such professionals don’t have to be perceptual mangers or propagandists, but even salesman, politicians, and businessmen who use deception as a standard means of interacting with others are extremely frightening to me.
I base the majority of my actions, decisions and emotional attachments on the information I have at hand. I try to be sensitive to others and do the right thing, but how can I make a good and caring decision if the information I’m basing that decision on is bogus or dishonest?
Those who deceive can convince me to act in ways which are not in my best interests or in the best interests of others. They can convince or encourage me to do things which harm me or others. They can deceive me into giving away my freedoms or to over estimate perceived dangers. In a world populated by professional deceivers it is hard to feel safe and to trust your instincts. When you are lied to and manipulated it is easy to become depressed, untrusting, cynical and/or disillusioned.
I feel threatened by the deceivers because they put into doubt and rob from me my sense of reality. In a world of deception I lose all sense of perspective, and have no idea if my thoughts and actions are valid or beneficial, or if my accomplishments are real or imagined.
In any relationship or communication in which I tell the truth and the other lies, they have all the power and control. When I’m honest and they are not, they become the sole possessors of reality, and can use that to their advantage. I’m afraid of those with power because they rob me of reality, and make it unwise for me to trust others.
All four types of people I’ve discussed have a tendency to unnecessarily intrude themselves into my life often with the goal to take from me, change me, exploit me, or have me serve their purposes. I must admit that I do myself have a desire to help, give to and benefit from the talents and lives or those around me. Yet, I try only to give to people what they want and not what I think they should want.
The most disheartening aspect of this post is the fact that our society encourages, fosters and rewards the existence and proliferation of all four of these types of people. I can envision and have often in many other posts outlined the type of changes which we could easily introduce into our social structure which would encourage and foster more noble aspects of human nature. Yet, it is in the selfish exploitative interests of the above mentioned four personality types to have us believe that this is the best of all worlds and that it is human nature for the ambitious and discontented to rule the world.
I have spent over 30 years working with families and individuals trying to improve the quality of their life and their relationships with others and themselves. I have seen how small structural and systematic adjustments can have powerful and lasting impact on the quality of one’s life and personal experience.
I hope you will visit guidoworld often to hear a voice of realistic optimism. There are many of us out there, but we definitely do not have the forum given to the ambitious deceivers who claim absolute certainty. Being generally content we just don’t have the need and sense of urgency similar to the control oriented discontents who currently aspire to and rule the world.
Here is a lyric that fits well into this discussion. I should have a mix for this song on the Zephyr CD within a week or so.
Discovery
Seeking a language of will
That fosters shared reality
The goal be to sate and fulfill
To walk this earth in harmony
The restless hijack society
Into an endless battle for supremacy
Some gird their loins while others flee
Taking refuge in faith, myth and fantasy
Anger and fear block their way
Turn humane thoughts into blasphemy
The empty keep the caring at bay
With tabloid lies and innuendo
Let’s sing our loud life’s sweet rhapsody
Celebrate where we’ve been, and where we will be
We are all passengers of mystery,
Every thought we have, every sense we feel
Is full of discovery
The closer we get the louder they’ll scream
Sages we respect they’ll insult and demean
I respect your life, I revere this life
I’ll comfort you, support all the good you do
Let’s sing our loud life’s sweet rhapsody
Celebrate where we’ve been, and where we will be
We are all passengers of mystery,
Every thought we have, every sense we feel
Is full of discovery
Jim Guido